Are you settling in your relationship??

Are you settling for less than the best in your romantic relationship? Are you with someone who just won't commit? You may have been with the same guy for seven years but he won't marry you until he's making more money or until he can buy a house or until ... But you keep holding on because he may change his mind next week or next month or even next year.

Are you putting up with someone who doesn't honor you or even respect you? Your partner makes snide remarks about your weight or your hair or your lack of cooking skills, knowing you are oversensitive to that aspect of your life. You fear that if you leave him that no one else will want you. You think you're lucky to have a guy who loves you despite all your faults.

Has your husband cheated on you repeatedly? Has his affair gone on for months or even years. He claims he loves you and doesn't want to leave you. But he won't break off his relationship with the other woman. He buys you the most expensive gifts that he can afford so you think that he must love you. Why else would he buy you the best?

We need to wake up and smell the coffee. Why are we tolerating this kind of treatment in our personal lives when we don't tolerate disrespect from our boss, mother, friend, sister, brother or police officer? We all make sacrifices for love but we need to ensure that we are not sacrificing our selfworth in the process. Too many of us tolerate unfair treatment in the name of love.

We don't have to settle. Teach your partner how you expect to get treated, how you deserve to get treated. It may take time to see a change but you will. And if you don't then think about moving on. You will find someone who knows how to cherish a good woman. Don't let fear keep you from moving on, fear that you will not meet someone else, because you will. Don't let fear of being alone keep you trapped in an unfulfilling relationship. You may need to be alone for a while so that you can grow spiritually, emotionally or intellectually.

Are you settling in your relationship? You don't have to. Make up your mind today that you will not spend another day settling.